Archives for February 2016
This is the final post in the Thriving with Depression in your Twenties series. If you haven’t please take the time to read the rest of the series: one, two, three, and four. Now I want to take a minute to pass along a seriously huge thank you to everyone who has supported me, shared their own stories, reached out for advice/support, and just been really freaking awesome over the course of this series. I had originally planned on doing this series in March but after going through another depressive spell myself, realized I couldn’t wait to share this with y’all. As some of you know, this has been my first series and I have really enjoyed sharing my thoughts and experiences. Talking about depression has never been easy for me but you all have made it possible for me to open up and I have enjoyed connected with each and every one of you. So thank you.
Today I’m going to get a little more personal. On Monday, I briefly shared the story of my battle with depression however, over the course of the week, I have been inspired to really dig deep and discuss my experience on a more personal and in-depth level. I hope you will find strength, hope, and support in my story.
My Struggle with Depression
If I had to point a finger to the exact moment when I realized I might have a problem, it would be way before I actually got help. My freshman year of college was terrible. I was miserable and felt trapped in an emotionally abusive relationship. I can recall about two or three depressive episodes over the course of our relationship (which started in high school). I didn’t know that’s what they were at the time, but hindsight is 20/20 or so they say. By the end of Freshman year, I was so miserable that I honestly didn’t know what was going on. I decided one night that I was going to end the relationship and I thought this was my road to salvation. I broke up with my boyfriend, got a dog, and moved into my first apartment (I had previously been living at home). I had some pretty great roommates and was getting my first taste of real independence.
We did what normal college girls do, we went to parties and to clubs, slacked off in school occasionally. I was having the time of my life until I woke up one morning second semester and had absolutely no desire to go to class. It wasn’t the normal “I don’t feel like going today” either. The idea of getting out of bed, taking a shower, getting ready, etc., etc. felt impossible. So I stayed in bed. At the time, I just equated it to being a lazy college student. I had never been really driven academically. I knew I was smart and capable of making better grades, I just didn’t care. Like I said, I thought this was normal.
Hey y’all! Can you believe this is already post four of five in the Thriving with Depression in your Twenties series? I know I can’t. This has been my first series and I’ve been really enjoying connecting with so many people on a personal level. If you’re showing up a little late to the party, never fear! You can read post one, two, and three and then come on back. It’s always better to be fashionably late anyways.
Today we’re talking about how to handle depression as a young professional, something that every twenty-something with depression is going to want to read. After graduating college, like most twenty-somethings, I had no idea what to expect when it came to employment. Especially what it would be like to handle depression during a typical 9-5 job. In college, you can kind of get away with taking a break from class every now and then or calling off from your part-time job. But being a young professional can be complicated when it comes to work policies and bosses who may not always be as understanding as your undergraduate professors.
So how do we navigate professional life with depression? Something already so complicated can just become overwhelming when you add depression into the mix. Here are some practical tips you can take to help you worry less about depression affecting your professional life.
Welcome to part three of five in the Thriving with Depression in your Twenties series. If you haven’t pop on over and read posts one and two. The first post talks about specific tools you can use to thrive with depression while post two talks about common misconceptions about depression. Today, I’m dishing some serious dirt on depression and relationships.
Take a minute to do this for me: I want you to open up Google and type in “depression and relationships.” What do you see? A bunch of negative posts about how difficult it is dating someone with depression. At first, I was infuriated by some of these posts, especially this one. But then I realized not everyone is capable of dating someone who battles with depression.
Being in a relationship with someone who has depression is definitely not easy. It takes someone who can see past the dark days, who truly cares and loves an individual completely for who they are. I have a confession: before JP, I truly thought that my depression made me unlovable. Even when I was on medication, I never really had control over my depression (let alone my anxiety). While I’ve gotten better at figuring out when I’m going into a depressive episode, it’s still difficult for me to pinpoint exactly when and how bad it will be. I’m so lucky to have JP by my side in the dark days, but we didn’t just magically get to this place. Here are some key tips to keep in mind when dating someone with depression:
Welcome to the second post in the Thriving with Depression in Your Twenties series! If you haven’t read the first post, hop on over now (we’ll wait, I promise). Hopefully, the first post helped add some must-have tools to your “thriving with depression” toolkit. Today we’re going to confront some societal misconceptions about depression and what we can do to overcome them.
There’s no argument that society as a whole tends to have a backwards view of mental illness. What do I mean by that? Well, we tend to think mental illness isn’t as serious as other illnesses, stigmatize it, etc. Information is misconstrued when it comes to illnesses like depression and anxiety (or just not researched at all) and that can be really detrimental to the actual mental health of someone who battles depression on a daily basis. Basically, it just plain old sucks when someone (*cough* society *cough*) minimizes or nullifies your feelings.
Specifically, I want to talk about five really common misconceptions about depression. If you have depression, chances are you’ve faced one of these five misconceptions at least once. But I don’t just want to focus on the misconceptions. I want to start a conversation about what we can do to overcome and change them. Here we go: