It’s Post Grad Friday and before we get started I just have to say… wow. Thank you all so much who have been reading, sharing, and pinning my post 5 Lessons I Learned in College (the Hard Way). I never expected to reach this large of an audience and I really can’t show my appreciation for it enough. I thought sharing 5 MORE lessons I learned in college (the hard way) would be a good place to start.
Reflecting back on that first post, it really summarizes what college is supposed to be all about: learning about life, love, friendship and finances. How to be an adult without your parents (and how to survive without them). College teaches us so much more than science or psychology, it really teaches us about life. Here are 5 more lessons learned in college (the hard way).
You Don’t Have to Keep Toxic People Around
In high school, we’re constantly under pressure to make people like us, to please them, and to basically do whatever we can to get through without people talking or judging us. This pressure may force us to keep toxic people in our lives for longer than we really need to. When I went to college, even though I was only 30 minutes away from my high school, I got the first wake up call that it was really okay to end my emotionally abusive relationship (the one I ran back to because everyone said we were meant to be). College is a time to open yourself up to new relationships. Branch out from that high school group if you went to a local college (if you went away then you’re already starting over). Take time to reflect on the sort of people you want to surround yourself with. If they’re only going to bring you down in the long run, it’s probably time to cut the ties. Essentially breaking toxic relationships isn’t easy, there may be a lot of memories attached, but you have to remember to do what’s best for you and your mental health. Self love, y’all.
Your Refund Check Really Isn’t a Refund
Ugh. How many of us have heard our parents say this at least once? Raise your hand if you’re now kicking yourself for not listening. While there were times I did need some or all of my refund check (the amount you get back from student loans after tuition) the times that I needed the full amount that I actually received are few and far between. One day, (after grad school) I’ll be paying for that decision. I nearly doubled the amount of student loan debt I have by simply taking out too much money. My advice? If you don’t need it, only take what you need for tuition and books. You may not have the money to spend on a brand new wardrobe like all of your other girlfriends, but you won’t be up to your eyeballs in debt when you graduate either. Be smart about it.
Your Roommates Can Be Your Best Friend or Worst Nightmare
I have heard horror stories about roommates, so I have to admit that I got off pretty easy. Out of all of my six roommates over the course of my undergraduate career, only two of them were god awful. I lived with both completely random roommates and a mixture so I can tell you that just because the stories you hear about one or the other are true for them, doesn’t mean they’ll be true for you. Some of the best memories I have from college I share with my random roommates my sophomore year. And then there’s of course Brittany (she’s the one who’s purse I threw up in) who saved me countless times from myself (and from our terror of a random roommate). Just be realistic about the situation you are in. You share a house/apartment with these people, so always always always be courteous.
You Should Probably Actually Pay Attention in Class
The vast majority of you, unless you’re lucky enough, are probably paying for college. Remember that the next time you go to a lecture hall and spend the next hour and a half on Pinterest instead of taking notes. My grades probably would have been a heck of a lot more stellar had I just taken the time to unplug myself and pay attention in class. You get what you pay for so you might as well put 100% of your effort into classes. You’ll probably be paying for them for at least ten years so you might as well get something out of it in return (anyone want to talk about regional dialect?).
You Don’t Need to Give Your Number to Every Guy that Asks
Oh. My. God. There needs to be an app that stops you from giving out your number to people in a bar on a Saturday night. Why is it that when you give a drunk guy your phone number he calls you one hundred times but the one person you want to call you never does? (Except JP, because he’s the best). Seriously, ladies (and fellas) if you’re considering giving a guy your phone number for a shot, save yourself the trouble and don’t. Chances are that shot isn’t worth it (and that guy won’t look as good sober). When in doubt, always check with your girlfriends before dishing out your digits. I mean, we already have the club dancing circle pact (y’all know what I’m talking about) can we please make an effort to do the same for phone numbers?
I seriously love this post almost as much as the first one I wrote. It’s so much fun sharing my crazy college stories with y’all and I really hope it keeps some of you from making the same mistakes (or at least think twice about them). Now I want to hear from you! What is one lesson you learned in college (the hard way)?