Most people feel as though the days of writing a love letter are dead and gone but I, a hopeless romantic, disagree. One of my favorite things to do for JP is write love letters! I really started becoming fond of them when he was away at training for a month this summer. Even though we got to talk for a bit on the phone most nights, we both enjoyed the love letters (I did the writing, of course). My guy looked forward to them every week (I would send a bunch of “Open When” letters for him to read throughout the week) and I think his squad mates were pretty jealous.
Now writing love letters has become my go to for sending that little extra something when he needs it. With Valentine’s Day rapidly approaching, I’ve been working my butt off in order to create the perfect love letters for the occasion!
But crafting love letters can be a bit of a challenge. If you haven’t been together very long, you could be afraid to say too much. Awkward. If you’ve been together awhile or frequently write letters, it can feel like you’ve already said all that there is to say. It can definitely feel a little overwhelming. Here’s some tips that will get you closer towards crafting the perfect love letter (I say closer because I can’t write them for you…).
Set the Mood
As with anything romantic, the setting can really make or break it. Turn down the lights and find a good playlist of love songs to listen to while you write. Maybe light some candles and uncork some wine (seriously, who doesn’t love a good excuse to open a bottle of wine?). Seriously though, I can’t stress how important setting the mood is for crafting the perfect love letter. Do you really think you’re going to be able to write a bunch of sweet nothings to your significant other if you’re watching something on Investigation Discovery? Probably not (unless you’re glad they aren’t a serial killer).
Pick a Theme
This is what I do every single time I write a letter to JP. Every letter has a theme and I stick to that theme throughout the letter. Picking a theme to stick with makes the writing process so much easier! Some ideas for themes include:
- reflecting on your first date and/or how you met
- writing a letter about the future
- songs that remind you of your S/O
- something you’re looking forward to doing together
See how simple that makes writing your letter? Once you’ve picked a theme the thoughts should just start flowing (and if they don’t, you can always do some more brainstorming). I promise, it’s not as hard as it sounds!
Just because you’re writing a love letter doesn’t mean they have to be a boring piece of college ruled notebook paper stuffed in a basic white envelope. Get creative and put your own little spin on things! One of my favorite “letters” to JP was created using some mad crafting skills (wink, wink). Basically, I got some USMA/Army colored cardstock, some Army scrapbook stickers, threw a couple different things together, and got some pretty adorable looking cards. I’ve even been known to slip a few surprises into the letters or make a game out of them (like that time I included a card and envelope for him to write me a letter… I’m still waiting on that one). Open When letters seem to be a go to for military girlfriends and those in long distance relationships and they take the whole love letter thing to the next level. If you don’t know where to start, Pinterest seems to be a never ending resource for letter ideas.
Actually Write Your Letter
I can’t really help you out much here, other than to say, make a draft or two first. The last thing you want to have happen is to make a mess of whatever pretty stationary you’ve picked out. This also comes in handy if you want to get creative with your lettering. If you’re still not sure what to write about, there’s actually a wikiHow on writing love letters, complete with drafts. When you’re writing, focus on your feelings about that person and your relationship. Try not to get caught up in whether or not it’s cheesy or riddled with cliches (mine almost always are).
It’s the Thought that Counts
Above all, remember this. Your significant other is going to love the fact that you took time out of your busy schedule to actually sit down and write something to them (and if they don’t, then maybe you should rethink your relationship). Love letters have always been considered intimate, but I think in the modern age when we can communicate at lightning speed via text message and email, that love letters have become even more intimate. Take the time this Valentine’s Day to craft the perfect love letter for your S/O!