In case you haven’t noticed, I’ve been away for a while. I’m a firm believer in not letting the internet consume my life. So if I disappear randomly from the blogosphere without warning, it’s because a thing called life is happening. This time, life happened to be the holidays.
As one year comes to a close, it’s customary to do some reflecting. I’ve recently found myself (maybe it’s the jetlag) thinking about how the holidays change over the course of your life. I may not be 25 yet, but the holiday season has changed drastically since I was younger.
This year was a year of firsts. This year, I didn’t spend Christmas with my family. Instead, I flew over 3,000 miles to spend Christmas in Alaska with my boyfriend and his family. After the year 2015 has been, I couldn’t think of a better way to end the year. JP and I have been dating for 8 months today, exactly, and building our relationship and growing in it has really been what 2015 has been all about.
While we all love presents, I think we can all agree that this really isn’t what the holiday season is all about. We say it every year but how many of us actually mean it? I know that I’m probably guilty about doing that at least one time or another. But this year, for me at least, it really wasn’t. Christmas this year was all about the experience and really seeing where my future is (hopefully) headed.
So when does our holiday experience really start to change? I can’t remember the last time it was actually easy for me to come up with a Christmas Wish List, or even when my list didn’t include things like a coffee pot, socks… you get the picture. This year, it was a plane ticket. It was that simple. All I wanted was to visit this place that my love talked about (literally all the time) and really get to know him. (I’m a firm believer that in order to really know and understand someone you have to experience where they’re from, where they grew up, etc.). That was what was important to me this holiday.
I’m closing out 2015 with a trip that really capitalized on what this year was all about for me. Justin always says “It’s an adventure” anytime I’m anxious or unsure about something (which is like… all the time) and that’s really what this year has come to be for me. An adventure. One big one. I started off the year in a completely new place, knowing no one, and really had to do some soul searching. I discovered what it was like to go to a 9-5 desk job all day, 5 days a week, what it was like to miss friend’s and family’s birthdays, and to be from some place everyone considers the south.
I was on the path to the person I wanted to be (or thought I wanted to be) when I met JP. Things kind of changed then, not because I felt they needed to or even because I wanted them to. It just happened. Sometimes you meet someone who really opens your eyes. Holidays become less about the material things and instead become about the things you have. With him, I felt more “home” than I have anytime over the last 5 or so years. Talk about major. Those feelings, right there, of being home and at peace, that’s what the holidays are really all about.
So happy holidays to you and yours.
Cheers to 2016 and remember, “It’s an adventure!”