It’s hard to believe I’ve been at my current position for almost a year already. When I first moved to New York I didn’t know how big of a life changing experience it was going to be but it has opened my eyes in more ways than one. I finally know what I DO NOT want to do in life and I’ve found the most wonderful guy (sorry ladies, I’m going to keep him). But with so much to look forward to in the future and coming to the realization that I’m probably not going to stay in my current line of work, I’ve got that dreaded feeling… you know, the one. Yep, I’m feeling stuck.
Feeling stuck is a terrible feeling for anyone but when you suffer from depression and generalized anxiety disorder it can be devastating. Feeling stuck, especially in your twenties, can be extremely difficult. I feel as though people will think I’m not grateful to have a job (trust me, I am) or that I’m not satisfied (we’re Millennials, so this is partially true) so that can make talking to others really difficult. So how do you deal with feeling stuck? Mostly, you just keep on going but since this is a blog where I’m supposed to offer unsolicited advice, I’ve provided some tips and tricks I’ve used in the past couple of weeks to keep me going.
Live for the Weekends
How do you make it through the work week when you’re feeling stuck in your job (other than by staying busy)? You plan something exciting for the weekends. Weekends (in between football games and CCQ shifts) are when Justin and I get to spend our time together. We always try to plan something special, even if it’s just what specific movie or TV show we’re going to watch or where/what we’re going to have for dinner. Don’t get me wrong, I like to live everyday to the fullest but it’s amazing how something so little can really motivate you to get through the week.
Break the Routine
For some people, getting into a routine can be a good thing. For the rest of us, it can be the worst. Doing the same thing day in and day out just forces me deeper into that “stuck” feeling. When I first started to get this feeling around June, I began running everyday after work (Justin was away and out of cell range for most of the day so I had large chunks of time to fill). Now even running has become a part of my routine. The other day, I decided to run the opposite direction I usually run and ended up running 4.5 miles (which included doubling back on the new route and running my old one)! Yes, breaking from your routine can be a little scary, but it can also be totally worth it!
Mental Health Day
Never underestimate the power of a good, old fashioned mental health day. Honestly, this could be a subcategory of routine breaking but I felt the topic warranted it’s own section. Whether you take the day off to just lay in bed (um, yes please) or maybe you just really need to clean your apartment and there isn’t enough time in the week (actual problem I have) taking a day to have just to yourself is a great way to recharge.
Do Something You Love
When you start to get depressed, you tend to forget about taking the time to do things that you love. These hobbies or activities can fall way down on the priority list. However, it’s super important to remember to do something you love at least once a week, in my opinion. It can be simply a few minutes in a day, an afternoon, or even a weekend dedicated to doing something you love but no matter how big or small, it’ll make a difference, trust me.
Try Something New
This isn’t necessarily the easy way to unstick yourself… but it is definitely effective. With the job market the way that it is, it doesn’t really make sense to leave my current position. So how do I fix my unhappiness? Well, on somewhat of a whim, I decide to become a Merchandiser for Chloe + Isabel! Chloe + Isabel is a company that sells the most amazing hypoallergenic jewelry and I am SO excited to be a part of their family. Keep checking back for more posts related to my c + i adventures!
How do you deal with being stuck? Please share your secrets! I’d love to know how you get around these types of feelings. Feel free to comment below, on social media, or via email!